Have you ever wondered why do we fear? Why are we afraid of certain things and certain things we are not? Is there a reason for this? Does this have to do with our childhood, with our parents, our friends, the society?
Today a friend shared with me a quote that made me think about why do we fear certain things and why we are attracted to do others…
“You must realize, that fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me, danger is very real, but fear is a choice”
Fear is a choice
Is it? While I was thinking about this concept I started thinking when I was a child. When my parents told me to do something and I didn´t want to do it, they used to say that a “bad man” would come and take me away if I didn´t do what they were telling me to do. Also, many times my parents told me that there were monsters hidden in the cupboard so I would not get anything from there…
You see… since we are children we are programed to fear certain things; is a way parents (generally!) get their children to listen to them and obey…
Same thing happens when you are growing up. We are educated in a way that people make us think there is a certain way to do certain things and if we decide to follow a different path, something “bad” might happen, inflicting fear in us…
Just think about it! How many times your parents told you don´t stay up late because it´s dangerous? Don´t talk to people because they might take you away? Don´t travel because that city/country is too dangerous? How many times your friends told you don´t quit your job because there is nothing else you can do for a living? Don´t start a certain business because is not the right time?
So, what are we really afraid of?
UNCERTAINTY & FAILURE!
Just try to remember the last time you decided you would do something different, what did you do? Probably you started questioning yourself first, and started thinking everything could happen if that was a “wrong” decision. Then, you probably asked different people about their thoughts and opinions, and they might have transferred their fears of that particular decision to you. Am I right?
The thing is, people are not used to making tough decisions, that is when fear comes to the picture. Yes, fear is a choice, but we need to learn this. We need to learn to trust our gut and our intuition, and embrace the fact that we need to do uncertain things and fail, over an over, to learn and grow as a person.
So, how can you relate fear to being an entrepreneur? Well, being an entrepreneur is scary. Why? Because it is something new, something you are not used to, and as a result, you don´t know the final outcome. You have many uncertainty and many people are not willing to go through all that, because they are afraid, and usually they try to transfer that feeling to whoever is looking to become an entrepreneur, or simply doing something different.
When you decide you want to start a new project, a new job, a new company, always ask yourself this question, “is there anyone else doing the same thing? If there is someone, well, guess what? You can also do it! Don´t be afraid, know what you have to change and learn and just go for it. Find those people having the results you want and start applying what they do and learn from them. You will fall many times, but what is more important is how many times you will stand up again.
Danger is real
It is… But it is up to you if you decide to face it or being afraid of it!
I’m not gonna lie to you… I’ve been afraid most of my life! Afraid to change, afraid to failure, afraid to many things… however… recently I made a choice… I would live life in my own terms… I won’t wast my life pursuing other people’s dream… and I will follow mine! If you’re wondering why am I talking about… click this link and find out! 🙂